Too much of school
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When my mom finally decided to take that plum posting as a Divisional Head,
I knew I was in trouble. Her office hours stretched way beyond my school
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Some tips for building a Childs Self Esteem
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on Sabtu, 31 Oktober 2009
Parents are very powerful figures in the life of any child. First of all, they are responsible for conceiving the child and for bringing that child into this world so everything that comes after there will still be held somewhat responsible. The mother best of all has a special emotional connection with her children while fathers are mostly the ones who deal with practical things in raising children. A perfect relationship between parents and children will be when the parents are role models of providing love and support within the family while the children are obedient but to a certain degree also independent in living their lives. In this world however there is no such thing as perfect but this should not stop us from trying to build an ideal relationship. There can always be a health compromise but the most important thing that parents should remember is that the times when the children are still young is the only time they can make the biggest impact. The children are innately obedient and loving towards their parents so it is up to the parents to use this advantage in instilling good things to their children so they grow up to be good and strong willed individuals. One thing that parents can help a child build is their childrens self esteem. Parents should also be aware that aside from being crucial to building a childs self esteem, it is so easy to damage their self esteem if parents do not deal with their children properly. Parents can contribute in developing positive feelings of self worth in their children by helping them in a lot of aspects including the social and academic factors. Let us look some tips that will help the parents out there to build their childrens self esteem. Constant and sincere appreciation will make your child feel special. Most parents tend to only communicate with their children if they need something from them or if they need to correct them in whatever they are doing. This is not a good practice. Parents should take the time to talk to their children about good things that they have done. Make sure that whatever you say is sincere and appropriate. Do not over praise because as in anything else too much praising can bring out a negative result. When you really need to comment on something bad, do not be judgmental instead phrase your comment in a positive form. Your children may not be mature but they know when they are simply being corrected without explanation. Offer a reason why they are being corrected or better yet work with your children to arrive at a solution to make things better so such a situation will not happen again. If you have children with learning disability, make sure that you very well understand the nature of your childrens problem and vow to closely work with teachers and other important people to make her environment friendly to her despite her disability. All these things are not full proof shields against possible crushing of self esteem but it will help them deal with the harsh realities of like with a perspective that they are tough and can meet challenges head on. They may fail but they will get back on their feet faster than everyone else.
Developing Self Esteem During Childhood
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The building of self-esteem starts in childhood. This means that as parents you have a responsibility to help your son or daughter to have a healthy self-image of him or herself. A healthy self-image is the cornerstone of good self-esteem. How important is self-esteem in a child's development? Developing self-esteem during childhood is very crucial. This is because it could affect the child in every stages of his or her development. How he looks at him or herself will definitely affect his or her future relationships, career development, confidence, prosperity and even happiness. Studies have shown that one of the traits happy people share is having a positive self-image of themselves. How does a parent that his or her child has a healthy self-image? There are several ways to do this. Below are just some of the things you can do to develop your child's self-esteem. Never compare your child with other children The single most devastating thing a parent can do to ruin his or her child's self-esteem is to compare him or her with other children. Unfortunately, comparisons are very much a part of our culture particularly our schooling system. One of the ways a child gets compared to other children is through peer pressure. Every child knows that there is tremendous pressure from other children, particularly from the ones in school to conform to the ways of a certain group. That is why in school you can see several cliques and these groups can be identified with different labels. There are the jocks, the jerks, the nerd or geek, the addict, the slut, etc. These groups are inherently not bad but oftentimes group's identity precedes the individual's identity which could lead into a loss in identity and eventually low self-esteem. To most adults these are just groups and labels but for a young innocent child the cliques are their world. Your child intentionally or not gets labeled and his or her tendency to is group with the ones with similar ideas and interests. Always praise and encourage your children When you talk to your child, always remember to use positive and encouraging words. If your child has done something praiseworthy then do not hold back on the kind and beautiful words. Doing so will do wonders for your kid's self esteem. It does not matter whether the act is big or small. If he did something good then praise him for it. There is nothing more discouraging than the feeling of not being appreciated for the things that you have done. Praising and encouraging children provides them with a positive self image of themselves. For them, it means that they are important enough for you to notice and recognize their achievements in life. By constantly giving kind encouraging words to children, you can ensure that they will grow healthy psychologically. Of course if they did something wrong, children should be reprimanded. But should do it in a way that it won't hurt their ego and damage their esteem. Whenever they have done something that is less than d desirable always make it clear to them that you are not in favor with the deed and not with them. Remember, developing your child's self-esteem is very important in his or her progress. Just follow the guidelines to make sure that your kid will grow up mature emotionally and mentally.
Activities in building self-esteem in children
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One of the main issues that parents must deal with when raising a kid is their self-concept and self-esteem. Teaching our kids to value themselves and their talents can be a tricky thing to do as parents must be able to achieve a balance between allowing their kids enough independence to be able to decide for themselves and act on their own and the guidance that will keep them in the right path. Being too lax and giving them too much freedom can lead to rebellion while being too strict can destroy a childs independent spirit and foster too much dependence. Although self-esteem can be developed anytime in a persons life, it is good to start early and train your child to trust in what they can do and to embrace their individual talents. Below are some activities that you can do with your child that can help them increase their levels of self-esteem. Self-affirming statements Talking to yourself in front of the mirror and telling yourself what a great person you are can be a bit childish for a grown-up to do but not for a child. And even if it seems childish, the practice is quite effective in boosting our self-esteem. And you dont even have to stick to the mirror process. You can create your own as long as you stick to the basic, which is the saying of self-affirming statements. Create a mantra that your child can easily remember. Every morning, tell your child the mantra and have your child tell hers to you. The statements need not even be something about the self but about each other such as saying I love you in the morning or telling each other how great the other is. There is really no exact way to do this. You can create your own variations as long as the essence of affirming oneself is there. The positive trait game Another activity that you can do with your child that will not only boost her self-esteem but also help in building his or her vocabulary is the positive trait game. In this game, you wll each tell each other the positive traits that one sees in the other. The catch is that the trait should start in a specific letter of the alphabet. The positive trait game is a wonderful way to teach your kid to think positive thoughts and to acknowledge the traits and talents that make him or her unique. This is also a great way to make sure that he or she will grow up knowing where his or her strengths lie. Do activities that they love Encourage them to try out new things so that they will discover their talents and abilities. Enroll them in different summer classes and be open to all kinds of things. For instance, if he is good with drawing and crayons, it does not mean that he will not be good in music. So dont discount music lessons as part of his summer curriculum. Anyhow, if he does not like it, at least he has learned something new. Helping them discover the things that they love to do and the things that they are good at is a great way to boost their self esteem early on. After all, when children are enjoying what they are doing, they become very enthusiastic and they are open to developing their skills further.
As white as they come
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on Jumat, 30 Oktober 2009
White gold is not silver. People often times refer to white gold as silver since it appear and feel like the latter. Partly it is true, since in reality white gold is an alloy of gold and another white metal usually silver or palladium. The combination of silver or palladium eliminates the yellow gold look and creates the rather white silver appearance. But even if it is an alloy, white gold is still measured in Karats just like ordinary gold. Other white metals used to combine with gold include nickel and platinum. Each metal used to combine with gold yield varying properties. A nickel based gold alloy, for example, creates a strong and hard metal which makes it ideal to be used for rings and pins. While, white gold-palladium alloys are relatively softer and flexible which make them great for gemstone settings. However, the disadvantage of using white gold-nickel alloy in body jewelry is that is could cause various skin reactions since nickel is not bio-compatible. Some may have very mild reactions to the metal with only mild itchiness and skin rashes. However, these reactions might turn uglier if they lead to infections. It is therefore best to consider your body chemistry first before buying any type of body jewelry. Nevertheless, white gold is quite popular as body jewelry. You could find white gold gemstone rings, ladies jewelry, nipple and navel rings, nose studs, earrings and tongue piercing. The reliability of the material has been proven. A lot of people compare white gold to platinum especially when both are used in body jewelry. Platinum is better as far as jewelry is concerned since it is more abrasive resistant than any other metal available. It has a real white color unlike white gold which is actually a grey steel-like color. Platinum is heavier than gold and last longer. However, the most disadvantageous part in platinum based body jewelry is the costs. Whether you believe it or not, pure platinum costs a lot more than gold. Actually, white gold was created exclusively for jewelry precisely to find less costly alternative for platinum. It was in the 1920s when the alloy was first manufactured for the jewelry and gem industry. Today, the alloy is a well established material for body jewelry and has its own fashion sense and value. White gold is often used as settings for diamonds and other gemstones enhancing their appeal. Like what was mentioned earlier, white gold is also measured by means of karats. However, white gold can only be produced up to 21 karat. Now when hear a higher karat white gold, it doesn't mean the gold is whiter. White gold is a combination of gold and other metals. The color is affected by the properties of the metals we add to gold and not the amount of gold. Basically, white gold can be either nickel-whites or palladium-whites. The main difference of which is that nickel-white gold have a colder white color wherein the palladium whites' color is a little warmer. Also it is very hard to achieve a good nickel white unlike with palladium whites which tends to be softer thus easier to process. Because of the price of palladium, however, palladium whites are a little more expensive. When buying white-gold, always remember that majority of white gold on the North American market are nickel-whites. The problem with nickel is that around 12-15% of people are allergic to the metal. Skin contact with nickel can cause red skin rash or irritation.
Unique Body Jewelry
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People see body piercing differently. Some call it hideous because this is not normally done even if a lot of cultures practice it. Those who are more open-minded consider it to be a work of art as it brings out one's personality. Whether people like it or not, this trend is here to stay. A lot of celebrities have also joined the hordes of those that have done body piercing. Two examples are Britney Spears and Cristina Aguilera that have each flaunted a fashion accessory. After seeing this in concert and on MTV, avid fans have also done the same thing. Such an example just shows that modern society has moved body piercing beyond the ears. Here are some examples of where some have decided to put it. Some women love to flaunt. Instead of just wearing a push up bra or clothes that are quite revealing, there are those who have had body piercing in the breasts. Some of the choices to choose from are nipple clamps, rings and shields with the option of even having a chain hanging from one end to the other. Another unique spot that can only be seen when the person is nude is in the clit. Those working in the adult industry have done it making this also possible by an ordinary woman. Believe it or not, men have also joined the unique placing body jewelry trend. Several have done this in the arms and the legs. Those that are quite bold have even done this in the male genitals. There are many who claim that body piercing is unsafe. In fact, some men and women have experienced allergies and infections. The truth is, such incidents are not always the fault of the professional. There are times that the client chose a particular section of the body that was not safe in the first place which resulted in the injury. Nevertheless, in order to prevent such accidents from happening, those who work in the industry have taken more precautionary steps so people will be able to enjoy rather than suffer from it. Some require the person below the age of 18 to get parental consent while others are advised to see a doctor first to make sure it is safe. Does body piercing hurt? This depends on the individual but some describe it to be similar to the kind of experience when this is done to the ears as this will be over in just a few seconds. The only way to keep the hole open is for the individual to always have something placed there. This means the maintenance process is the same when having a pair of earrings. Should it close, the customer will have to go back to the store and get another piercing. Fortunately, not all the body jewelry will require this because there are other options available. The person can use the type of body jewelry that can be clipped or glued to one's body thanks to an adhesive. Body jewelry comes in many shapes and forms and the way that a person is able to carry it makes it unique. The other way will be to have one custom made. By coming up with an intrinsic design, the manufacturer will be able to make it happen so this can be shown to the world.
The hard metal for your body
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Ti in the periodic table, has an atomic number of 22, and is quite known for its lightness, strength and corrosive-resistant properties. We're referring to Titanium, the metal that is white-silvery in color. For industrial and other purposes titanium can be easily combined with other elements like iron and aluminum to create strong lightweight alloys which are used for jet engines, missiles, chemical plants, automotive industry, agriculture, medical science, sports and more. It was William Gregor of England who discovered the metal in 1791, however, it was Martin Heinrich Klaproth who coined the name titanium after the Titans of Greek mythology. Aside from the industrial uses of titanium, nowadays the metal is used for body jewelry. Jewelers are preferring titanium over other metals because of its properties. The metal doesn't react much to stimuli making them ideal for people who are sensitive to other materials. Plus, it is very durable, light weight and will not rust, or corrode under normal use. In fact, titanium's ability to resist corrosion is one of its most notable properties. The metal comes very close to platinum in terms of anti-corrosive properties. The metal can endure most acids like sulfuric and hydrochloric acids. It can withstand exposures from moist chlorine gas and chloride solutions, as well as salt solutions. The metal can be made more corrosion-resistance by exposing it to elevated temperatures. But even if you store or use the metal in room temperatures, it will still resist tarnishing. Other properties of titanium include paramagnetic or being weakly attracted to magnets and low electrical and thermal conductivity. Why do people become allergic to metal body jewelry in the first place? The amount of nickel usually determines how safe and how allergen risk it is. The problem with nickel is that it is usually not bio-compatible. This causes problems when the jewelry metals is used or pierced through the skin. When buying body jewelry, you should therefore check the metal and nickel contents of the body ornaments. Sterling silver, for example, is only .925% silver. The other percent is made up of other metals which can cause irritation, tarnishing when it comes in contact with air and body fluids. Gold, especially the higher grades like 24karat gold, contains less nickel than sterling silver. However, the problem with gold and sterling silver is that they are soft. Both metals are susceptible to nicks and dents which can be breeding grounds for bacteria which in turn causes infections and allergic reactions. Surgical stainless steel (SSS) is perhaps the most popular metal used for body jewelry. The metal is strong and has virtually flawless finish. Plus, allergic reactions are much less for SSS compared to silver and gold. However, SSS still does contain nickel and irritations from the use of the metal as body jewelry is possible especially if the person has a terribly low tolerance of nickel The next best thing after SSS is Niobium. This metal is a little heavier than SSS but is also a little stronger. What is good about Niobium is that it is non-reactive. Most people are able to wear them as body jewelry with little or no problem at all. The only problem that would arise is the higher costs of buying the metal. Still, Niobium is cheaper than Titanium and most people will choose Niobium as the middle ground between SSS and Titanium. Titanium is the hardest and highest grade of metal available which has almost no presence of nickel at all. The metal has less than .05% of Nickel. Scratches and dents will not occur on the surface of the metal because of its strength.
Sterling Silver Body Jewelry
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on Kamis, 29 Oktober 2009
In the Olympics, medals are given to the first, second and third placer. The finest athlete gets the best, which is made of gold. The other two will get something made out of combining certain materials together that comes out as silver and bronze. The reason why silver and bronze need to be mixed is because the material itself is soft. It will be impossible to mold this into anything unless there is a mineral out there that can strengthen its composition. Luckily, there is and w someone mixes seven and a half percent of copper, the finished product is better known as sterling silver. Sterling silver is used in a lot of things. Two examples of these are kitchenware and jewelry. Studies show that more people use this as a fashion accessory. Jewelry stores sell these as necklaces, bracelets, rings and earrings. The trend these days has allowed manufacturers to do more in the market. It has given the seller the opportunity to expand and offer sterling silver as a piece of body jewelry. Body jewelry as it is called is attached on the individual's skin. This can either be pierced or simply clipped on. Customers that are afraid of getting an infection or experiencing an allergy will stick to the second type. Sterling silver is not really the best example of body jewelry. This is often considered to be a cheap alternative for those who can't afford the kinds that are either made of gold and platinum. Because it is more affordable, this does well with the younger generation especially those that are in high school and college. With the cash on hand, the person can even have some add ons by having a few stones attached The customer can even tell the manufacturer to make one from scratch instead of just selecting one from the display case. Sterling silver body jewelry must be cleaned regularly. In most cases, a mild cleaner and a piece of soft cloth will do the trick. If this does not work, this is the time that a brush has to be used. This does not have to be anything fancy so even the kind used for cleaning the teeth will do. After brushing, this should again be wiped down. People are advised to use something made of 100% cotton to prevent any damage from happening to the accessory. Sterling silver body jewelry are also good to give as gifts. The friend can be brought into the store to choose which one the person likes and have this pierced free of charge. The customer should be sure that the place is well recommended and follows sterilization measures since it would really be bad if the friend got sick. Those who know people that love the clip on version can just get it. Each pack has a set of instructions, which includes how to attach and keep it shiny. Body jewelry is not something new. People have been using it for years and this will continue as long as this express one's individuality. Those who want to join the bandwagon but don't have enough money will just have to make do with sterling silver. With proper care, this can last for a long time until perhaps the person has enough money to buy something much pricier.